| Posted by rachel On Friday 15 September 2006 Quote |
Hi Here's something that maybe some of you more experienced single parents can advise me on. I have a 1 year old - he was conceived by donor sperm. My partner couldn't have children, but was agreeable to donor sperm, until 34 weeks pregnant, when he changed his mind. I moved out when my baby was 2 weeks old. So he doesn't have a father at all, not even an absent one. At the moment I can't imagine ever meeting anyone else. I work part-time, and I honestly don't feel I have a spare second to devote to a relationship. Also, I would be scared that any man I got involved with would try and take me away from my precious baby, and that he could never love my son enough. Having said that, I'm only 38, and I don't really want to be on my own for ever. Is it common to feel like this? I guess my son is still very young - perhaps as he gets older I'll feel differently. Any thoughts? |
| Posted by jennyshelley On Friday 24 November 2006 Quote |
Hi Rachel How are you getting on? It must be hard work being so much on your own but I understand that almost agonising attachment you feel for your baby. I think, no hurry to meet someone else ... but then again there are a lot of decent people out there and any nice guy will love you AND your baby. Just think how good it would be to be able to share the joys as well as the challenges... BUT , no hurry, no hurry, when you are ready .... Jenny |
| Posted by mrobinson_tcm On Saturday 24 February 2007 Quote |
Rachel, I'm a single Dad and understand that the demands of work along with the time you want to spend looking after your child sometimes don't leave much spare. Do you have any family around who could babysit occasionally? An alternative idea would be to contact other single parents who live locally and start to build a social network with other people who won't bat an eyelid at your turning up to functions with your child. The children can have fun too! All work and no play don't make us dull boys or girls, but make life more stressful. A less stressed mum (or dad for that matter) is better for our children, so don't feel guilty about making time for you. Mike |
| Posted by cathy291276 On Sunday 13 May 2007 Quote |
Hi Rachel, Don't despair, a majority of new single parents have these same thoughts and worries. I went through it myself when I went through a divorce. Just concentrate on the way your life is now, and enjoy every moment you spend with your child. It will all work out in the end. Cathy |
