| Posted by pauline On Tuesday 5 June 2007 Quote |
My ex just decided one day that being married and having a young child 'wasn't for him' but through the determination of his family has managed to keep contact and build a relationship with his son. I always thought it was better to keep contact with both parents no matter how difficult it was for me.Ten years on he's 12 and we were in a serious car accident at Christmas, due to my injuries, he faced the prospect that I wasn't going to be there for him. My ex 'used' the accident to take an extra day off with his new family rather than rush to his sons side and hasnt been much better since. At what point do you decide the relationship between father and son isn't in the son's best interests? |
| Posted by alanc On Monday 25 June 2007 Quote |
Pauline, as a single father I feel that it is not your place to decide this. It is about the right of the child to see both parents, not our rights as parents to see our children. I clearly do not know or understand your situation, but it would be fairer (in my opinion) to honestly ask yourself what would your child actually want. Good or bad he deserves to see both parents. Sorry, just my opinion. Alan. |
| Posted by alanc On Tuesday 26 June 2007 Quote |
Pauline, after reading my posting again I feel I have been a little harsh with you. I know you are only trying to do your best for your child, but I read too many forums like this where the mother thinks it should be her making the decision alone for the well being of their children. Two people (generally) bring our bundle of joys into this world and I feel that two people should make those decisions atleast. And if the child is old enough, he or she should help in that process. Anyway, just thought I'd point this out and apologies if I have offended you, it was not my intention. Take care and good luck. Alan. |
